Long Island Wedding Planners- Wedding Invitation Etiquette

You are getting married! Congrats! Now, you have to let everyone know about your big day. Below are a few do’s and don’ts to make sure your invitation etiquette is perfect.

Must Include:

  • Your name and the name of your fiancé, (with last names!)
  • Date, location, and time of the wedding
  • The location and time of the reception
  • Reply information
  • (websites, registry information and dress code can be included on inserts)

When to Send:

  • Save-the-date cards go out six to eight months before the wedding)
  • Traditionally, invitations go out six to eight weeks before the wedding
  • If you are having a destination wedding, give guests more time and send them out three months ahead of time


  • Make your RSVP due date two to three weeks before your wedding date to allow for final headcounts for seating and the caterer
  • If guests still haven’t responded by your deadline, you may call them and ask them to send their RSVPS via the mail

Naming Inquiries

If Your Parents Are Divorced:

  • The proper way to word an invitation when the bride’s parents are divorced is to list the names of the bride’s parents at the top of the invitation
  • Bride’s mother’s name should be on the first line
  • Bride’s father’s name should go on the line beneath it but do not separate the lines with “and”
  • If the bride’s mother has not remarried, use “Mrs.” followed by her first name, maiden name, and married name

If Your Parents Are Divorced & Remarried:

  • it’s perfectly acceptable to list your step parents on an invitation
  • Place your mother (and her husband, if she’s remarried) first, and include your last name

One Or Both Of Your Parents Are Deceased:

  • If one parent is still living, that parent should issue the invitation
  • If your mother has not remarried, you should place “Mrs.” before her name

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